Omoshalewa Yusuf, the Nollywood actress better known as Basira Beere, has opened up on her failed marriage, revealing she was a victim of domestic violence.
In a recent episode of
the Talk To B podcast, the actress said she initially ignored warnings from
friends who questioned her decision to marry a man they considered “of a lower
calibre”.
Basira said she sponsored about 70 per cent of their wedding
expenses because she believed she was supporting her husband. However, problems
in the marriage started barely days after the ceremony.
The film star recounted how her husband became violent after
seeing a congratulatory message from a man she addressed as “dear”.
Basira also blamed her prolonged stay in the marriage on the
advice she constantly received from her parents, who repeatedly urged her to
endure.
“When I wanted to get married to him, my friends complained
that I was marrying someone of a lower calibre than me. I was like, he was not,
that I just received the grace of God, and I also came from nothing. When we
wanted to do our wedding, I paid for about 70% of the ceremony. I thought I was
supporting my man,” she said.
“His problem started about 2-3 days after the wedding. Days
after the wedding, a guy texted me to congratulate me on the wedding, and I
called him dear, and that was when the problem started. It was so tough, he
beat me so much that even our landlord tried to intervene.
“My parents hated it when you complained about your marriage
to them. If I explain to them what happened, they would say that I should be
patient and endure. Only my siblings who stayed with me at the time could
attest to what I went through. If I made a mistake sometimes, he would not
think about it twice before beating me, before he realised what he had done.”
Basira said her husband would beat her over minor
disagreements, including arguments about music preferences between Fuji singers
Pasuma and Saheed Osupa. She said during one such incident, he broke her phone
and beat her severely. Within three hours, she began bleeding and suffered a
miscarriage.
She disclosed that she lost about four pregnancies due to
the beatings and that the final miscarriage convinced her to leave the
marriage, as she began to fear for her life.
The actress admitted that she had started considering
retaliating physically if the abuse continued. She said she realised the
relationship could end tragically if she stayed longer, noting that couples in
such situations often end up killing each other.
“At a point, I was like, if this continues, we will kill
ourselves someday. I lost about three or four pregnancies due to his beating
me. We have fought because of a Pasuma track before, because he likes listening
to him. I was listening to an Osupa mixtape, and he asked me to change it to
Pasuma. I was like this song would soon be over, and I would change it,” she
added.
“He angrily broke my phone, and when I challenged him, he
beat daylight out of me. Within three hours, my tummy started aching, and then
I saw blood; it was then that I concluded that I could no longer stay. If I say
I am no longer interested in a relationship, you would notice through my
attitude.
“I would not complain about anything you do anymore, I would
just ignore. I was even tired of complaining to my parents because they kept
saying I should endure without doing anything about it. He would belittle me,
talk down on my career and at a point, I left there because I was scared for my
life.
“We did not have any children together, and I thank God that
I left because if I had waited a bit longer, something else would have
happened. Because I was ready to hit him back if he tried it again, and that is
why couples with domestic violence issues end up killing themselves. The last
fight we had, I was covered in blood; in fact, Gistlover posted about it. I do
not know who leaked it to them.”
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