In relationships, it’s easy for a woman to get caught up in the excitement and emotion of loving a man. We often find ourselves willing to make sacrifices and compromises for the sake of love and commitment.
However, it’s essential to maintain your personal boundaries
and protect your self-worth, especially when marriage is not yet on the
horizon.
As a woman, taking certain actions too soon can undermine
your worth and leave you with regret if the relationship doesn’t progress as
expected. It’s crucial to prioritize your own needs, goals, and aspirations
while navigating a relationship.
Without further ado, here are things you should avoid doing
for a man who hasn’t put a ring on it:
- Changing
your identity
Avoid making drastic physical or personal changes just to
please or prove love to a man.
The decision to alter your core identity like religion,
personal values, and appearance should be personal, not external pressure.
Doing it for a man can lead to resentment, especially if the relationship
fails.
Authenticity is crucial to building a healthy relationship.
A man who loves you will accept you just as you are.
- Cutting
off loved ones
A man who discourages you from maintaining a relationship
with your family and friends is a walking red flag, simple and short.
So never allow any man to persuade you to cut ties with them
because they are your support system that will be needed for your emotional
well-being.
A healthy relationship does not isolate you; instead, it
enhances your life by helping you build impactful relationships.
Keep those relationships intact, you will need their love,
support and guidance through life’s challenges.
- Sacrificing
your career, ambition, or passion
Never put your dreams on hold for anyone, including a man
who hasn’t committed to building a future with you. A supportive partner will
cheer you on not discourage you.
- Tolerating
disrespect or abuse
Never compromise on your self-worth and self-respect
regardless of your love for him.
Maltreatment, abuse of any kind and disrespect should not be
excused in a relationship, and never think marriage will change these
behaviours.
Prioritise your physical, mental and emotional well-being.
- Living
with him as a ‘wife’
Avoid playing the role of a wife by cooking, cleaning and
managing the affairs of his house if he is not committed.
Cohabitating might seem like a good idea but it often makes
it difficult to set boundaries.
Also, you have no business taking up the responsibilities of
a wife at his parents’ house or for his friends.
Setting boundaries is not about being rude, it’s about
maintaining your self-respect and ensuring you are not taken for granted.
- Taking
loans for him
Protect your finances by steering clear of actions like
borrowing money on his behalf.
In a relationship without long-term commitment, taking on debt
for him could leave you shouldering the financial burden alone if things go
wrong.
Let him handle his own financial responsibilities while
offering other forms of emotional or moral support.
Your finances are personal — guard them wisely.
- Having
children for him
Never think of “tying down a man” with pregnancy, it is a
very risky decision to take.
Giving birth is a huge responsibility that should not be
shouldered by just one person. So without marriage, you risk being left to
raise a child alone if the relationship falters.
Ensure you both agree on your future before taking this
life-changing step.
Love is a beautiful journey, but make sure to guard your
heart, finances, and future while at it.
Also, ensure the commitment, efforts, respect, and sacrifices
are mutual.
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