What I’m learning as a single parent –Ituah Ighodalo

 

Ituah Ighodalo, the senior pastor of the Trinity House Church, has opened up about life as a single parent.

Ibidun Ighodalo, the cleric’s wife, died in June 2020 from a heart attack in her sleep.

In a recent interview, the clergyman said although his late wife enlightened him on parenting, he has intensified the process of raising their children.

“There is nothing that I didn’t know when my wife was around, most of what I am doing, I did it when she was around because I was going to be a hands-on father, but now I have intensified it to compensate for the thing my wife would have done,” he said.

“My wife helped me, she trained me well and I also helped myself because I wanted to be a hands-on father, to be as involved in their life as I could and we had a very good partnership and relationship, but there are some things she used to do, but now I do them with joy.

“It’s a privilege to have them in my life, it’s a privilege for me to be part of their life.”

Before her demise, the couple had been married for 13 years and blessed with two kids.

 

Speaking further, Ituah said remarrying isn’t in his thoughts for now, although “I don’t know what will happen in 10 or 20 years time”.

 

The cleric also said emotionally, “I have given everything” to my late wife, adding that “I have nothing left for any other woman”.

 

“I loved Ibidun very much, I still love her. I gave her everything that I have, I don’t think I have anything to give anybody again as I speak to you. I don’t have it and it would be unfair to marry somebody who you cannot give everything,” he said

 

 “I gave Ibidun everything that I had to give in terms of love and looking after a person. I married her intentionally to look after her. I don’t have that energy anymore and I don’t want my life complicated with anything. I also don’t need anything from anybody, so I’m okay as I am.

 

“I don’t know what will happen in 10 years time, in 15 years time, in 20 years time, I don’t know. But as I am now, it is not anything I think or desire.

 

“I’m not looking for anything from anybody or any woman, I’m not looking for anything from them, I’m okay as I am. Ibidun tried and I tried for her and I’m okay. I just want to be at peace and fulfilled.”

 

The cleric had last year said he might not marry again following the demise of his wife.